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At your Santa Muerte altar, place the personal items or photo of your target lover in the center of the burn plate or bowl. Set aside.
Etch the name of your target lover into the outside of your skull candle, then place this candle on your burn plate or bowl, directly over the personal items or photo of the target.
Now grind approximately equal parts calamus root, licorice root, ginger, and lavender. The calamus, licorice, and ginger are typically sold whole or as broken chips and may be difficult to grind in a mortar and pestle right out of the package. I recommend cutting or shaving these herbs into pieces as small as possible before trying to grind in a mortar and pestle. You can also make grinding easier by ensuring that the herbs are thoroughly dry before introducing into your mortar and pestle. Be careful of breathing in the dust of the herbs as you grind, as it may cause irritation. You ultimately want enough ground herbs to cover the outside of your candle.
The mixture is complete when you're happy with its consistency.
Next, lightly coat the outside of your skull candle, top to bottom, in almond carrier oil, then sprinkle your herb mix over all areas of the oil coated candle.
Throughout the process of preparing your candle, hold the image of your target in your mind's eye, and repeat the Open Minded Lover Santa Muerte magick prayer (see below).
Using Your Candle
Place your prepared skull candle and burn plate on or near your Santa Muerte altar, then light the candle and recite the Open Minded Lover Santa Muerte magick prayer (below) three times. As you recite the prayer, visualize your lover taking part in the sexual fantasy you want to try.
While your skull candle burns, take time to talk to and pray over it throughout your day. Talk just like you would if your target was right in front of you and giving you all the attention in the world. Describe all the sexual things you want to try, explain how happy it would make you, and how much closer it would bring you as a couple if your lover would open their mind to the idea of sexual experimentation. You can end each talk with the Open Minded Lover magick prayer found below.
Disposing of Your Skull Candle
When you've worked your magick with the skull candle and it's burned all the way to completion, you may dispose of what remains from this petition using the instructions outlined in my post How to Dispose of Magick Trash.
Open Minded Lover Santa Muerte Magick Prayer
Holy Death, open the mind,
of my lover, in quick time.
Make him / her lust to try new things,
new adventures to us bring.
Side by side, let us be free,
to explore each other's kinks.
In your name, amen.